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A Good Life Has Problems
The Hidden Belief One of the biggest sources of frustration I see in men comes from an unconscious belief that a good life is problem free. At first glance, that sounds ridiculous. Of course life has problems. Everyone knows that. But as I continue to talk with guys and pay attention to my own internal dialogue, I’m surprised by how often this belief shows up. “I hurt my back in the gym. Now I’m totally screwed.” “I got in a fight with my girlfriend. I’m not sure she’s the one.” “My boss...
The Long Way Isn’t Slow. It’s Ongoing.
Happy Friday! Quick note before we jump in. It’s been a minute since I’ve sent a newsletter. I’m restarting it under a new name, The Locker Room Newsletter, and using it as a place to share the ideas I’m working through in real time. If that’s your thing, I’m glad you’re here. Alright, now on to this week’s thought. When I first heard “the long way is the right way,” my immediate reaction was, ah shit, that sucks. Who wants the long way? At first, I interpreted it as a lesson in patience....
Freedom. Fireworks. And a Life Worth Living.
4th of July is my favorite holiday. Not because of the fireworks or the patriotic playlists. But because, for a weekend, everyone seems to just be happy. Grilling with friends. Floating on lakes. Laughing. Letting loose. No pressure to be productive. No need to check boxes. Just… living. And every year, it reminds me of two things: I’m lucky to live where I live, with the woman I love, doing work I care about. Most people wait for holidays like this to finally feel happy. But what if...
Become Your Own Hero
A while back I watched a clip of Matthew McConaughey. He was being asked who his hero was. His answer? “My hero is me in 10 years.” At first, I rolled my eyes a bit. Classic McConaughey. Confident, cool, maybe a little too smooth. But the more I thought about it, the more it clicked. That answer isn’t cocky. It’s genius. Most of us spend our lives trying to find someone to look up to. A mentor. A role model. Someone who seems like they’ve got it figured out. But usually, that person is just...
I Never Thought I’d Be a “Mantra Guy”
I’ve never been a mantra guy. They always felt a little forced and a little silly. But lately, I’ve been focused on one thing: being present. Enjoying the process. Letting go of distractions. Focusing on what actually matters. I’ve noticed whenever I was present and at my best, I was doing three things. I was focused on simplifying the task, slowing down, and single-tasking. When I simplify, I think more clearly. When I slow down, I feel more calm. When I single-task, whether I’m writing,...
Conformed or Transformed (There is No Option C)
You’re always being conformed or transformed. Every day, something is shaping you. The content you consume. The people you hang out with. The habits you keep. The stories you tell yourself. The routines you follow (or don’t). The scary part? Most of it happens without you noticing. This is unintentional formation. It’s letting life shape you by default instead of by design. But here’s the good news: The moment you become aware of it, you can start to change it. Want to make conscious...
Turns out, doing nothing is really hard.
Last week, Kel and I tried something new: taking one full day off. No work. No screens. No “productive” tasks. Just rest. We were inspired by John Mark Comer's take on the Sabbath: a full day each week to disconnect, recharge, and just be. Sounds simple, right? We thought so too. We started strong. Woke up. Turned off our phones. Went out to brunch. But within the first hour, we caught ourselves trying to make a plan for the day, something structured, something productive. Not traditional...
What If Every Year Got Better?
Every year on his birthday, one of my best friends would say something that stuck with me: “I am continuously peaking.” Not jokingly. Not half-heartedly. With full conviction that this year would be the best one yet. At first, I just thought it was a funny, confident thing to say. After all, how can the real world be better than college? But then I graduated, and the next year was better. And over the last decade, this silly saying has become a personal philosophy. Because what if that was...
Would You Watch the Replay of Your Life?
Imagine this… A documentary crew has been secretly filming your life for the past six months. Every decision. Every morning routine. Every night out. Every moment in between. (Am I poet??) And now, you’re sitting in a private theater, watching the footage back. No edits. No filters. Just the raw, uncut version of how you’ve been living. How would you feel? Would you be proud? Inspired? Motivated? Or would you feel that pit in your stomach. That quiet voice saying, “This isn’t it…” I love this...
Do You Want the Life… or the Lifestyle?
Do you want the life or the lifestyle? This has been on my mind a lot lately. There’s a difference between wanting the life and wanting the lifestyle. When I was in college, I really wanted the life of a fit guy. Someone who never got tired, who could out lift and run everyone, and a six-pack would have been nice. But I didn’t want the lifestyle. I didn’t want to track my food, say no to booze, or to the nights out. After graduation, I craved mental peace. I wanted to be the calm, confident...
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